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Maui Wedding Minister
Why Do So Many Brides Cry
at My Maui Wedding Ceremony?

Actually, it might surprise you to learn that just as many grooms also become "moist" (guys don't cry, do we?) when I perform one of my wedding ceremonies at their Maui wedding. Why am I seeing all these tears?

 

Your wedding is one of the most important moments in your lives together. When you look into each other's eyes, when you place a fragrant lei around your beloved's neck, when you slip that wedding ring on your lover's finger -- all sorts of emotions should rightfully well up inside your heart. You want to savor the memories, letting your feelings of past experiences with each other remind you of all the reasons why you are now holding hands, committing yourselves to each other for a lifetime of love.

 

It is my job as a Minister to remind you why you're here. My ceremonies don't produce your emotions, they simply bring your focus in on your lover and all that he (or she) means to you. That often creates some emotional moments. And there is nothing wrong with letting that emotion flow a little bit. Because it wouldn't be there if your relationship hadn't grown and been through its ups and downs.

 

I've tried to include in each of my ceremonies several things that I feel are important to this moment.

You want to feel the moment and feel the romance. That's why I read a poem and also share other poetic statements. You want your thoughts to be focused upon each other rather than on what you have to do during the ceremony. That's why I like to go over the ceremony right before I give it so that you know ahead of time what to expect and so you don't have to work too hard on it. Making your wedding ceremony a romantic moment is what you want your future lives to be all about.

In my Spiritual Ceremony and my Contemporary Ceremony, I include a moment where I will have you look into your lover's eyes while I ask a few rhetorical questions designed to remind you about some memorable moments (like when you first met and when you first kissed). I want you to be able to savor the romance as you concentrate upon each other. 

4. A Maui ceremony that has a strong "closure."

We did a wedding a few years ago where a priest officiated. He preached a message, as if he was talking to a large congregation (and there were no guests in the chapel). When he reached the end of the ceremony, he never uttered the Pronouncement. He never told the couple: "I now pronounce you to be, husband and wife."

 

I don't think I wrong when I say that this is the moment all couples come for. Everything else about a wedding is all fine and dandy, but it is the pronouncement that is the single most important thing that is happening. And if the minister forgets to utter those all important words, you will wonder, "did we really even get married?"

 

That same priest even forgot to tell the groom, "You may kiss your bride." Did it happen or didn't it? When a minister realizes that he has the power to make two single people into "a couple" -- it is an awesome responsibility. That's why this is the most important moment of the entire ceremony. This is why you're here.

 

With this in mind, I like to purposely drag out this moment a little bit at the end of the ceremony. I know the couple is hanging on my words at this moment. I know they're waiting for the pronouncement and the kiss, so I take my time, almost as if (like the priest) I have forgotten why we're here. On more than one occasion I've had an anxious bride speak out, "Oh, come oooon, you're killing me!"

 

And when I do finally make that pronouncement -- hopefully with a strong powerful voice -- the couple has a sense of release and closure. And they will probably always remember the moment when they stopped being two single individuals and became a real "couple". That's certainly worth the extra wait.

 

Because I want my couples to "feel" that they are truly, indeed, married. I want them to feel it is more than "a piece of paper" as so many have said in the past. I want them to feel thoroughly married and committed to each other.

 

So which of my Maui ceremonies is right for you? Here is a quick summary of what's in each. You can click on the links to see them for yourself.

The Contemporary Maui Ceremony

This ceremony is what I like to call a romantic civil ceremony. Some couples would prefer that their wedding not be a religious ceremony, and not mention God. Those are traits of my Contemporary Ceremony. If you want a meaningful ceremony that does not turn "religious" than this is the Maui wedding ceremony for you. 

The Spiritual Maui Ceremony

This ceremony is half way between the Contemporary and the Christian ceremony. It includes a modern version of "the love chapter", First Corinthians 13 and a prayer at the end. It does not include the such words as "obey" or even "submit to him in the Lord". So its a Christian ceremony without much that might be found offensive my some.

The Christian Maui Ceremony

This ceremony is definitely for Christians. It includes both 1 Corinthians 13 and a number of other Biblical passages that define marriage, and of our a prayer. But it also includes a commitment within the vows for the wife to "submit to him in the Lord." Take a look at it for yourself using the above links. Or you can go back to the Maui Packages page below:

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